New means of communication and the torment of loneliness
It was in 1990 when mobile phones were introduced in Pakistan. Initially, this facility was provided by only two companies, Paktel and Instaphone, later other companies came and the facilities also increased like SMS, MMS and CLI etc.
Initially, it made sense to pay for the call, but at that time, the person receiving the call also had to pay. If my memory and information are correct, Skype was the first app that provided almost free calling, and after that, it was just a matter of time.
Today there are such apps like WhatsApp, Imo, Messenger, Botem etc. through which phone calls have become free but man is becoming more and more lonely. Earlier there were people to talk to but there was a lack of facilities. Today there are plenty of facilities but there are no people to talk to and man is forced to suffer the torment of loneliness.
Did this happen in a day? No, not at all! Rather, some of us have regularly irrigated it with the fertilizer of our ego and some have even watered it from the pond of pride and arrogance, then somewhere this tree of loneliness has grown and is now bearing the fruits of loneliness. Is this a result of one-sided behavior or is the fire burning equally on both sides? One basic thing to understand is that the abundance of communication has made communication difficult.
First, we started calling each other without thinking and without considering the time, and people made the call conditional on their needs and benefits. As a result, if the benefit was seen, the call would be received, otherwise the call remained waiting, and sometimes, even a useless call was choked, meaning the call was disconnected after a few rings.
If we come to the very basic reasons of this problem, the fact is that no one wants to listen to anyone anymore and everyone just wants to talk. Why would anyone listen to someone's difficult conversation anymore? Anyway, nowadays such a conversation is called toxic conversation. Some speakers are also at fault for this, that once they start, they don't even stop, as if they are preaching and you have to listen.
No matter how controversial the conversation is, you don't even have room for disagreement. Rather, it is more appropriate to say that disagreement has become intolerable and disagreement means personal enmity and the one who does it becomes a mortal enemy. Although it should have been that only one of the two words of mortal enemy was used. People are still ready to listen to someone's story, no matter how illogical and irrelevant it may be, it should be our benefit. If you don't believe me, look at the literary gatherings organized by individuals in the city and after listening to the discussions there, you will believe in humanity and philanthropy to the extent of this event and if you are not a guest at the next event, this belief will end with the event and will be re-established at the next invitation.
Is there a solution to this problem? There is a solution, as someone has rightly said, that earlier houses were small but hearts were big. Now houses have become big but hearts have become small. Now we have to make hearts big again, not as a medical symbol but as a symbol of relationships. The heart has to be widened and expanded so that people can fit in it once again.
One should rejoice in the happiness of people. One should share in their sorrows. One should abandon things and embrace people. One should put material gains aside and include spiritual gains in one's priorities.
Finally, instead of a story, as usual, a true story and this is my own story. It is a very long time ago that I met an old friend on the way. He complained about not meeting him. As usual, I made the excuse of being busy. He took a deep breath and said, "Have I not met anyone socially during this time? Have I not gone to anyone's house for a party? Or has anyone not come to my house for a party?" I answered all three questions in the affirmative.
At this, my friend put his hand on my shoulder and said, "Look, friend, I am not one of your priorities, that is why we did not meet. The day I become your priority, you will have time and resources." He had completely cleared me. I have no qualms in admitting that I was not ready for such truth, but I was brave enough to admit my shortcomings, and I did.
If we, even today, put aside material benefits and things and include people in our priorities, perhaps that golden time will return and this torment of loneliness will diminish.






